Episode 110

Listen to “Understanding and Navigating the Energy of Obligation” on Spreaker.

As humans, we perceive the energy of obligation as acting out of principle and integrity. In fact, the definition of obligation is to act in moral, just ways to honor a commitment or duty, or to pay a debt of gratitude for a service or favor.

Based on this blueprint definition, the mind tells us that when we honor obligations, we are acting out of a sense of being dutiful, honorable and just, which feels positive, helpful and in alignment with being an good person. Until it doesn’t.

And this is where things can get tricky.

Sometimes we act out of obligation in a ways to help us remain on someone’s “good side”, or to avoid confrontation, and that doesn’t feel good to the heart or soul. These choices can feels like a “have to” or a demand on the self, with the hope of staying on even footing emotionally or energetically. In other instances, we feel we are acting in a righteous way, while others are not, even if they are following their own personal inner views and guidance.

Add to that the “big picture”, or in other words, how we define what we see as an obligation and why. Obligation energy stems from societal norms of what people collectively feel is moral and best, and/or legal precedent. It’s combined with the personal value system we grew up with or crafted along our personal development journey. These internal and external expressions of obligation are alive within us, and cause a lock-up between the mind and heart when they don’t align. The disconnect between what is perceived as acting within integrity (or out of obligation) causes mental and physical friction, in addition to a host of emotional experiences such as shame, doubt, frustration, fear, resentment and more.

The most challenging part is that we often don’t realize the energy of obligation is causing the problem.

With the mind and emotions at odds, it can be hard to do what’s right for us in terms of self care and support, without feeling like we are letting someone down or being judged as bad. Or doing the same to another. This is what makes it essential for us create clear perspective around the energy of obligation and what it really means to us personally and professionally.

On the latest podcast, I talk about the essence of obligation, how we internalize obligation energy based on family and life experiences, and how we can turn that against ourselves in ways that make us neglect our own self care and well being. I also talk about how our perception of obligations can be a trap we create for ourselves, or, define the value of other’s opinions and actions if they act outside of our perceptions of obligation. This kind of thinking can mess with our unique moral compass, forcing us to act out of sync with our natural, authentic self to keep the peace externally while the internal self feels confused and unacknowledged.

So when you think about it, really think about it, how do you view an obligation in your mind? Are you making something an obligation when it’s really a choice, or making others feel obligated based on your needs? Most importantly, are you acting out of your authentic or strategic self?

Interested in listening to other Flirting With Enlightenment podcasts on a similar topic? Check out Breaking Patterns and Building New Creative Pathways or Shoulds and Getting Ready to Level Up in Life . Want some one on one help or support? Connect with me for an intuitive reading or coaching. Looking for other ways to get support as a creative or entrepreneur? Check out my Creative Mastermind, hosted monthly.